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Reforming the meaning of Pain

Great Ra’sing!! How are you feeling? Hopefully great! Let’s abundant our rising with great intentions for ourselves and our family. May our work and pure intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. Much gratitude for life and all the things we have.

Today’s blog post is a difficult one. I had to share my revelation of pain that I had experienced yesterday. I cried my eyes out, but soon felt better when a vision of I speaking among thousands of people crossed my mind. I was a motivational speaker touching lives. From there I was directed to the purpose of my pain. It led me to my passion which is to speak life!

No one wants to deal with emotional pain. But how would we know our strengths and potentials? Pain show up in our lives for a variety of reasons. How we look at and/or receive pain determines how we will move forward in life. Often times pain is teaching us a lesson.

I had this built up pain for years. I thought I overcame it all, but I realized I wasn’t fully healed from the hurt. I gave my all to my biological families, foster family of 10yrs, my siblings, friendships, employment, marriages and the in laws. They had my loyalty. But they couldn’t replenish me with the same loyalty. I was beyond hurt. It made my abandonment issues much harder to deal with. It was so hard to pick up the pieces of the puzzle in my life. I kept asking myself do they love me or did they love what I did for them. Turns out they loved what I did for them whether it was intentionally or unintentionally.

What I’ve learned from dealing with these people is that they confuse manipulation, materialistic things, and favors with love for me. Although I demonstrated my love for everyone I’ve interacted with, they couldn’t demonstrate their love for me in a way I needed to be loved.

No love lost though, but I had to cut off their access to me while setting healthy boundaries to protect myself from further hurt. I no longer have high expectations of people. I no longer re-respected people who I’ve put in a position to not ever deal with them again. Yes it hurts especially when they’ve made it clear that it was more important to be my enemy than my ally. Most enemies we have usually come from those we’ve helped. Don’t sweat it at all! They did you a favor by giving you fuel to turn your pain to passion.

Often times when we’re faced with pain, we beat ourselves up which only leads to more pain. We’ll drink and party to numb the pain. We say all this, “I wished, I was hardheaded, I could’ve, I should’ve l, etc.” to ourselves. It may be true, but we must believe and realize that we didn’t lose anything. Some of you are probably saying “how is that even possible?” Every loss is not a loss, instead it’s a lesson. And it’s up to you if you want to heed the lesson or not. Now if you refused to heed the lesson then that’s on you. The lesson will keep reappearing in different situations/people until you heed it.

With that being said, look at pain from a different angle. Treat it as a lesson to learn from instead of a loss. Check me out on the Growing Pains For Evolution podcast on Anchor https://anchor.fm/s/7d3096ac/podcast/rss, Spotify, Google Podcast and Apple Podcast. May you be blessed with abundance, prosperity, happiness, and good health.

Goddess Kamil With a K

You can purchase my memoir (ebook) for $9.99 https://kamilgerald.gumroad.com/l/lhwlu

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