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Addressing Self Sabotaging Behaviors

Great Ra’sing Readers! How was your weekend? Did you spend time with family and friends? Did you take time to enjoy nature? I hope you all had a phenomenal weekend. My weekend was phenomenal. I enjoyed the beautiful weather. Lets abundant our rising for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. Namaste! Speak with intentions that today is a great day!

Have you ever done things repeatedly only to arrive at the same results? Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a project, but automatically start doing something else? Lastly, did you ever questioned yourself why things are not getting done? Guess what? You’re not the only one going through this. Majority of us have self sabotaging behaviors whether we realize it or not.

With self sabotaging behaviors we produce the same results over and over. Often times we blame the source without addressing our behaviors. And that’s us not accepting accountability of the choices we make. If we expect to see and produce different results, we must take a hard look at our patterns. Once we acknowledge our patterns, we can start making changes by incorporating new habits. A new habit usually take 30-40 days to become accustomed to it depending on the person. You’ll know if the new habit is beneficial for you when you began to produce different results. You’ll see that you are accomplishing a whole lot more than you ever did.

Implementation of a new habit can be difficult at first. But once you get through the first two weeks which is known as boot camp, it gets easier. You have to learn how to hold yourself accountable, because people is not going to always be around to hold you accountable. That’s not their responsibility. When holding yourself accountable in the midst of a self sabotaging behavior, you have to do a lot of self talk. Talk yourself out of the behavior by encouraging yourself and chastising yourself in a gentle way. Always state the consequences during your self talk as a reminder of what happens if the presenting task is not follow through. Now there may be occasions where you may succumb to the behaviors, but don’t beat yourself up. You’re not a failure that’s if you don’t get back up and try again. We’re only human and we’re allowed to make mistakes. But don’t use that as an excuse to not use your will power.

When I catch myself in the midst of a self sabotaging behavior, I check myself real quick. I have to remind myself of the consequences. It’s a necessity for me to have structure in my life in order for my goals to be accomplished. Trust me I love a spontaneous life full of surprises not having a care. I like to live my life without any limitations. And that’s fine, but I must have some kind of structure to still accomplish my goals while having fun. It’s all about finding that balance. It took a lot of trials and errors for sure to arrive at my balance.

With that being said take a moment to acknowledge your self sabotaging behaviors. Make some changes if you want to see different results. Your future self will thank you. Have a beautiful day!

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