wisdom

Guilt

Great Afternoon My Loyal Readers! How are you today? I hope you feel GREAT knowing that you set your intentions for the month of April! Yesterday I talked preparing ourselves for the first of the month. Today is the first of the month and I hope you set the tone for the month.

Before get real deep in this post let’s abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family! May our deeply felt gratitude is expressed and heard by our Higher Power. Today is a GREAT day!! ASE!

Today’s blog topic is about guilt. What is guilt to you? When was the last time you felt guilty? Was it because someone made you feel guilty or was it something that you regret? Or did you felt guilty, because you said no. Whatever the case may be we must reflect and understand why we’re guilty and when it is necessary to feel guilty.

Do not do for others what they need to do for themselves. Speak truth from your heart. Being honest is freedom. Any guilt is more likely fear of being disliked. You have to ask yourself if you’re giving away too much of your time and energy on behalf of someone knowing they could do it themselves. Next thing you know, you resent it. To save yourself from a lot of disappointments, start putting yourself first as well as taking care of yourself.

I used to do so much for people that I was blind to the fact I was being taken advantage of. When I started on my healing journey and started establishing healthy boundaries, I began to utilize the word “no”. In the beginning it made me so uncomfortable to say no, because it made me felt like I was mean. I felt so guilty without realizing I was doing what was best for me. Growing up I wasn’t taught to normalize saying no when I didn’t feel comfortable doing anything for anyone. It was always a “yes, yes, sure I can do that, no problem I take care of it, etc.” It drained the life out of me. I called myself being a helper and a nice person. It wasn’t until I had a thought provoking conversation with my Godmother when I told her I can’t help it that I have to help people. She specifically told me that’s not helping, that’s me being a fool. In other words I was a fool letting people taking advantage of me, because I wanted to be accepted.

From that moment on I started saying no more often. People thought I was being mean, because they wasn’t used to me saying no. And they also felt some type of way about the healthy boundaries I had put in place. And that’s because they were benefiting from me without any boundaries in place. It’s imperative to set boundaries to protect yourself and for people to respect you. You’ll find life much easier to manage as well as attracting the right people in your life who will respect your boundaries.

With all that being said, don’t beat yourself up when you tell someone “NO!” It’s for a reason; to protect you and put yourself first. And don’t let anyone guilt trip you into thinking you were in the wrong. Now if you did something wrong trying to impress someone and you felt guilty about it, acknowledge it and make it right with whoever you hurt. It’s imperative that you do so you can release yourself from the law of karma or else it’s gone come right back around on you when you least expect it. May y’all have an amazing weekend!

Abundance, prosperity, happiness, and good health!

Goddess Kamil with a K

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