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Getting Through The Holidays

Great Ra’sing readers! How is everyone feeling? I hope you are getting through each day the best way you can especially around the holidays. Before we dive into the blog, let’s set our intentions. May our day be filled with gratitude, abundance, happiness, peace, productive, and sound reflections. May we continue to be appreciative of our life and the lessons it comes with. May our work be our answers for good for ourselves and our family. So mote it be. Asé!

Holidays can be difficult for some and for some it brings happiness. Ask yourself what does the holiday means to you. How does it make you feel? Holidays can also be a time of reflection. Thanksgiving/Friendsgiving for some were a time to reflect on relationships and gratitude of family and/or friends. For me, I reflected on how I used to have big gatherings at my house to it just being my children. I definitely miss it, but my peace is more important than anything.

When you get to a point in your life to avoid drama, you make certain lifestyle changes. At some point you realize that life is not fulfilling when it is full of drama. And you also realize it is a waste of time. Time is too precious to be wasting. Time is not something we can get back. Each of us have an hour glass that we can not see nor know when our time is up. We have to use our time constructively and for the betterment of our well being.

We are in the last month of 2022. Whatever holiday you celebrate in December, take time to reflect on what you want to do differently. Leave whatever that is not benefitting you in this year of 2022. Don’t bring it into the new year of 2023. Yes, there may be some chapters with people you may need to close and/or not reopen it. Just thank them for the lessons they’ve taught you and let them go. You always hear that “people are in your life for a season.” And I hope that whatever season they’ve departed, the lesson was learned to fulfill your growth/maturity. And as they always say,”Life is the best teacher”.

With all that being said, embrace your growth and maturity. Be thankful for the time you are given each day to make a difference. Whether that be a difference in your own life or someone else’s. But most importantly celebrate the small and big wins that nobody knows about. And keep in mind that you are the “win”, because of your dedication, consistency, discipline, and all. Thank you for taking the time to read this blog filled with rubies of wisdom. Until next time my readers, make the best of December, the final month of 2022. Goddess Kamil with a K.

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Themes

Great evening my readers. Are you staying safe and warm during the winter or are you enjoying the sun of the tropical? Whatever season you’re in, be grateful for there is always a lesson in it. In my last post titled, Privilege https://growingpains4evolution.blog/2022/11/18/privilege/, I talked very briefly about themes for the year. As promised, this post will be about themes. In your own words, what is a theme to you? Some people say it’s a New Years Resolution. Theme is like an affirmation with intentions you’ve set over your life.

As I’ve stated in my last blog about my theme for 2022 was called, “Self Love”. However, 2022 was part 2 of “Self Love”. Part one was the year 2021 in which I was learning myself and walking away from what no longer served me. It was the year I was forced to love myself without a choice. It was the year I had published my memior which was very raw and hard-core truth. I didn’t sugar coat anything, because I needed to release and let go of whatever was binding me. Of course people looked at me differently upon reading my memior whether that be more understanding or a distortion. It didn’t bother me at all, because they didn’t walk my journey nor endured what I’ve endured. So to each it’s own with their opinions.

I had to continue with my “Self Love” theme into the year of 2022. I was still evolving and learning how to set my boundaries. I’ve learned not to abandon my own ship for other people knowing they wouldn’t do the same for me. This year was the year I was tested greatly on mastering my emotions. I had to really master that skill and train myself that no response/reaction is a powerful response itself. I’ve learned not to feel any type of way when someone tells me no and/or unable to help me, but help the next person of the same request. I’ve learned that whatever people do has nothing to do with me at all. As an empath, I’ve learned to not get myself involved in people’s affairs when it’s a lesson they need to learn. I’ve been able to do the things I love such as reading a book, taking an hour walk in the community, signing, etc. The love for myself has grown stronger. With only one month left in 2022, trust and believe it’ll be finished on a strong note going into 2023 healthy.

What will be my 2023 theme? I sure did came up with a great one with a combination of a few words. My theme: Living life Bold, Fearless, and Unapologetic. Twenty twenty-three (2023) is the year to move wisely. I’ve set the tone for my year and will put in the work.

What was your 2022 theme? Is it continuing from 2021? November and December should be the months to do a good reflection on how your year was. Reflect on what you learned from any obstacles you’ve faced. Reflect on minor and major accomplishments that made you feel good about yourself. Try to document it in a journal (blank notebook is good). Having a journal is a great tool/resource, because it provides insights to your maturity level and growth.

So what’s your theme for 2023? What do you want to accomplish? Remember you are the Co-Creator of your life no matter what you do and don’t do. You want things to happen, then you must be willing to put in the work. If you don’t put in the work, you can’t blame anyone but yourself for how your life turned out. Alright until next time yall be safe and take your life goals seriously. It’s moves to be made that’s for sure. With love and light, Goddess Kamil with a K.

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Privilege

Great Afternoon my readers!! It’s been awhile since I post a blog. I’ll be sharing with you about what’s been going on with me. But before I do that, let’s abundant our day. May we abundant the day for ourselves and our family. May our work be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May we continue to be grateful for life so that we may continue to experience gratitude, abundance, happiness, laughter, smiles, and everything else that serves our higher good. So mote it be ASE!

These past few months has been flying and here we are in the winter season. Well where I’m at, we had a snowstorm last night. Today they issued a travel ban. Snow plows been stuck on the speed bumps. These speed bumps were installed over the summer and here we are dealing with the headache behind it. Welp they just goes to show that my city didn’t think about the trouble it would cause in the winter. Enough about my city, just know we’re cold over here. Brrrrrrr.

As many of you may know, I’ve been teaching sign language to the community as well as spreading hearing loss awareness. I’m currently teaching at a charter school grades k to 8th. The kiddos definitely keep me on my toes to keep them interested and engaged. What I noticed is that kids learn best and quicker through play. So all my lessons are through play and I love it. It really gave me an amazing idea how I want to move forward with my future lessons. I’m so grateful for the opportunity the community has given me to teach them something of importance. My heart is forever full.

As I continue evolve and elevate in my greatness, people I once trust and looked up to removed themselves from my circle. And there were a few I had to remove myself and trust me it wasn’t easy. You’re probably asking how it wasn’t easy when you can simply just stop associating with them. It’s not easy as it seems and I’ll tell you why. The pill that was hard to swallow was accepting the fact that people won’t and don’t want to see you as how you see them. Ouch! You may look at them as a friend, sis, bro, family or what else, but they don’t see you like that. Ouch again!

But let me tell you, the journey to success is a lonely road. However at the same time it’s rewarding. It depends how you choose to perceive it. There will be many people who will talk about you, because they lost the privilege to be in your presence and to even talk to you. Therefore they’ll do whatever is necessary for them to feed their ego and to feel good about themselves. Don’t even let that get to you and don’t entertain the nonsense. It’s a powerful thing when you master your emotions. No response is a powerful response itself.

Now with all that being said there is one month left in 2022. Think about what you are going to leave behind in 2022. And think about what you will be starting 2023 in. Think of a theme for 2023. My theme for 2022 was “Self Love” and I’m finishing 2022 off strong. I’ll be doing another post sooner than you know to talk about themes. Remember you are privileged no matter what you have and what you lack. You alone is enough! I look forward to writing again and I should have a new name for the blog as well. That’s gone be a post itself. Until next time, be grateful for you and love on you! Goddess Kamil with a K

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Checking In

Great Ra’sing Readers!! How are you? How is your week going so far? I hope you are well and your week is going great. Let’s abundant our rising before we dive deep into the post. May we abundant our rising for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May we continue to express gratitude for life. It’s another day to live, smile, be happy, laughing, and to do whatever it is we want to do. So mote it be!

Today is a great day! Make sure you are setting your intentions for the day before getting out the bed. If you find yourself complaining and/or saying “I got to do this, I got to do that”, stop yourself, take a deep breath and count to 20 backwards. Once done say out loud, “I get to walk. I get to see. I get to touch and feel things. I get to drive to my vehicle.” Changing “got” to “get” is a game changer. When you’re constantly saying I got to do this and that, you’re causing unnecessary stress on yourself. But if you say I get to do this and that, you’re showing appreciation. You’re expressing gratitude.

My children and I are still enjoying the summer vacation. I teach sign language (Signing as Art) on Mondays at a library. I taught my first class on July 11th. It was amazing and interactive. It felt good to teach about my community. Everyone should learn basic sign language. I’ve taught my class to not look at sign language as another language. They are encouraged to look at it as art 🎨 Why? Because the movement of the hand creates art. It’s a beautiful thing.

I’ve been stepping outside of my comfort zone such as doing a motivational video on YouTube. That was a different experience. You can click on my channel, Kamil Gerald. Before I add anymore videos, I want to resolve the closed caption matter. For some reason unknown its not showing up on the videos. So thats my task for today. https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCekQOUZaODUhlevyItywH6g

How’s the season going for you? Are yall stepping outside of yall comfort zone to foster personal growth? Keep in mind, things don’t change for us if we continue to stay in our comfort zone. Stepping outside of that zone is where alot of things happen for you. To avoid and break out of stagnation is through action. It can be simple as rearranging your apartment, sorting through your closet to give things away, creating a scrapbook or going outside to enjoy nature. There is always something to do, you just have to get creative and just do it without hesitation. Okay my readers, I’ll be back in touch to keep you posted. If you’re still in need of some motivational quotes and/or that push to help assist you on your day, you can find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/authorkgerald?t=IhPdY_PWm3ByiANR-lrkzw&s=09 Love and Light 😊🤟🏾🌞💚

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Are You Living?

Great Ra’sing Readers! Let’s abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May we continue to be grateful for life which gives us another day to heal, celebrate, smile, laugh, and do the desires of our hearts.

Readers, how was your weekend? I hope it was good and full of positive memories. I’m really trying to write this blog today. I’m actually lost for words not knowing what to to really say. But I’ll let my hands do the talking as I type. My weekend was bittersweet with mixed emotions. My city, Buffalo, NY endured a mass shooting in Tops grocery stores. Not only that, there were two separate shooting incidents followed by the mass shootout on the same day. I’m pretty sure you heard it on the news repeatedly and/or read it in the newspaper or maybe learned from others.

The shooting has caused a lot of fear among civilians in my hometown. We continue to be killed because of the color of our skin. I don’t understand why we can’t get an anti-hate bill. Every other race gets an anti-hate bill without a problem, but when it comes to us, it’s a huge problem! I just don’t understand how this world works and why we’re hated so much. It’s unbelievable! That’s all I have to say about that situation. I don’t want to feed into the energy of fear and intimidation. This is why I don’t watch the NEWS, because they do a great job in causing fear among civilians. I pray for the families of the 10 that are deceased and the three who survived as well as those who were there in the store working and/or shopping. Their lives will never be the same.

The next day after the incident I had to model for the fashion show. It was not what I expected. There were too many last minute changes. However, I learned that in life you’ll have to make last minute changes for something to work out. I was also reminded to stop doing for people that you should be doing for yourself! And also to stop doing for others that can do for themselves! Why put in the work for someone that don’t want to put in the work for themselves? Remember life is what you make it.

After finishing several projects over the weekend for other people, I decided this was it. I have to stand my ground and put myself first. And that’s not selfish at all. I refused to allow people to make me feel guilty for doing so. Besides what’s the purpose of life if you’re not living? When are you going to start living? Don’t say until things start going well for you. You have to create the moment or else you’ll lose the opportunity.

I challenge each of you to ask yourself, “Am I living?” If not what are you waiting for? Take steps to protect yourself and your family. Take steps to putting yourself first, it’s all a part of self care. Stay safe! Love and Light!