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Congratulate Yourself

It is definitely a late night post. I assume many are resting and won’t read the post until the rising. So with that being said, let’s abundant the rising for us all. May we abundant the rising for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good. May we continue to express gratitude for life that is the richest gift given to us each day. May we appreciate the opportunity to smile, laugh, heal, etc on another day. Love and light.

How often do you congratulate yourself? How often do you tell yourself you’re “proud of you” for every accomplishments? Ask yourself when was the last time you actually pat yourself on the back without anyone’s input. These are serious questions to ask yourself. Can you live life without the approval and validation from society? If the answer is no, then it’s because of your ego. Ego feeds on the approval and validation from society. Why? Because of fear. What is it that you fear?

Most of the time to get what we desire is usually on the other side of fear. Keep in mind, fear is an illusion in other words thinking of something that doesn’t exist. The only way it will exist is if we keep thinking about the fear. At some point you have to face it in order to get what you desired. Address your fears so you can truly be yourself without any regrets. Look at fear as a way to help you reach your highest potentials.

I’m going to use this moment to congratulate myself and I want you to do the same for yourself. I congratulate myself for surviving foster care. I’m so proud of myself for walking away from toxic relationships to put myself first. Self care is top tier and non-negotiable. I congratulate myself for digging deep within to actually find myself and my passion. I am honored to be gifted with a talent to teach a life skill (sign language). I’m so proud to keep stepping outside of my comfort zone as I continue to grow and elevate. Most importantly I am beyond proud to step outside of survival mode in order for me to walk into my thriving mode. I no longer address myself as resilient, because I am exhausted from strength alone and I don’t want to attract anymore struggles. Be careful of how you talk and label yourself, because you can attract things even when you don’t mean it.

The more you congratulate yourself, the more you are expressing gratitude. Remember you are the author of your story. Every chapter documents your journey of progression. So with that being said, take time with yourself and congratulate yourself. Be carefree and live life in the present moment. That’s all that matters. Until next time, Love and light.

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Finally Free!

Happy Sunday Readers!! I figured I check in before the summer is over. Vacation with my children is almost coming to an end. I’ll be back to blogging full time. Trust me, I do miss blogging and interacting with my readers.

So tell me my readers, how is your summer going? Was you able to take a vacation as well? Are you enjoying the heat and the rain that brings the breeze? I hope your summer is fulfilling. Be sure to make each day count. Always be grateful for the present which is a gift to us to be thankful for life.

I’ve been teaching sign language at a local library for over a month. Tomorrow will be the final class which is game day. I’m truly excited about game day. I’m beyond proud of myself for teaching sign language. It’s a very important skill to have. It is honestly a life skill and I’m honored to teach it to a community that wants to learn.

For so many years I’ve been looking for my passion. I had so many ideas I wanted to fulfilled, but they weren’t my passion. What was the point of fulfilling something that isn’t your passion? I’ve fulfilled so much, but they didn’t fulfill me like I wanted it to. It didn’t motivate me to continue with the project after it was already completed. Don’t get me wrong it was rewarding and I loved seeing the change/difference it created in someone’s life for the better. But something was missing.

I knew I was supposed to go back to being a motivational speaker, but something was missing. I couldn’t figure it out for the life of me. Then just one day, my hearing was working my nerves. I was experiencing an inflammation in my right ear. The doctor couldn’t figure out what it was. It was nerving. I was tired of taking steroids to slow down the inflammation. I didn’t want to accept the fact I would be losing more of my hearing.

Oh no, I was in straight denial. I was clinging onto wanting to hear my old music, and many sounds that were like a lullaby to my ears. I didn’t bother to take the time out to ask what was my current situation trying to teach me. I was being stubborn and I didn’t want to be bothered with the hearing community because they wouldn’t understand.

After all the crying, I had to force myself to dig deep within. I had to ask myself what was my progressive hearing loss was trying to teach me. I learned it was because of my stubbornness due to so many rejections I’ve faced in this life. And it’s what caused me to be isolated. It made me understood why the deaf community choose to isolate themselves from the hearing community. Yes, they’re stubborn, because they don’t want to face anymore rejections. They’ve had enough. People don’t want to see us for us!

After much thought, I decided to teach sign language to the hearing community. I’m dedicated to bringing awareness about hearing loss and how to better communicate. I had to travel back to my root in which I knew sign language since I was 3 years old. As I sat with my memories as they make their way back to me subconsciously, my family didn’t sign with me. They didn’t take the time to learn sign language. And because of that, I share with my students about the importance of teaching their children sign language. Fostering communication at an early age have many benefits. It increases a child’s vocabularies which increases their reading level. Babies can communicate as early as five months old through sign language. Why wait until your child is 11 months old or older to say their first word. Be proactive in their communication skills. It’ll pay off in the long run.

I’ve now found my passion which is teaching sign language and speaking in sign language. Sometimes you have to go back to your root to find your passion. And sometimes a life and/or health situation have to transpire to get your attention. Now all those ideas I had, I can now incorporate it with sign language. I have sign language game night coming up at the WestSide Tilth Farm. Sign language yoga is in the works. Best part is I’ve been including the hearing community. It’s all about being inclusive which is acceptance all across the board. I’m glad people are reaching out to me to learn this important life skill.

So with that being said, if you’re in a rough spot, ask yourself what is the situation trying to teach you. Humble yourself and take some quiet time for yourself to allow the message to come to you. It may not come right away, but it will when you are ready to receive. Love and light. I’ll be writing again sooner than you know.

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Monday Mood

Great Ra’sing Readers! How was everyone’s weekend? Hopefully it was a productive one. Let’s abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May we continue to express gratitude for our life as we celebrate, smile, laugh, and whatever our heart desires. So mote it be.

Today is the day I will be advocating for my son to return home from boarding school. He doesn’t want to stay there until August which I totally understand. I’ll be asking for him to return home in June when school is out so he can enjoy his summer. I’m not too fond of court, because I’ve dealt with court while I was in foster care permanency review, divorce court, mental health court for clients, etc. I’m tired of court. I just want to be done with it.

I hope this will be a lesson for my son that it’s not a good feeling at all to have someone preside over his life. I also hope that he will learn to maintain his self control. It’s a necessity especially with so much going on in this world.

Life doesn’t come with a parenting manual. Everyone have their own parenting style and some may need to switch up. Why? So their child can be responsive to their authority. Every child is different. He just happened to be one of my challenging child who is very open minded and curious about a lot of things. It’s a good thing, but boundaries must be in place to keep him safe. I still want him to enjoy his teen years, but I care more for his safety. Why? Because he’s a growing young black male.

This may be an uncomfortable topic for many in which blacks are still being killed for the color of their skin. I don’t understand why we are hated so much. But I refused to live in fear. I don’t even want my children to live in fear either.

Racism is so loud and ugly. I challenge each of you to think about what can you do to make the world a better and safe place. Remember we all have children and they deserve to have a good childhood. Also remember hate is a learned behavior. Take a look at how you conduct yourself around your children and others. Love and light!

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Choosing Peace

Happy Monday! Abundant the rising for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. ASE!

How was your weekend? Did you spend time with family, friends and/or pets? Or did you relax and enjoy the weather? Hopefully your weekend was productive. My weekend was very interesting. I did a lot of reflecting, spent time with my children and worked on my projects.

During my reflection I was reminded to see things for what they are. There was no need to stress myself over situations I could not control. There was a lot of forgiveness I had to work through to make sure I actually forgave the person. From that moment on I decided to choose peace in every aspect of my life. I’m not wasting any more energy on proving someone wrong, overthinking, etc. If anything was disrupting and/or costing my peace, I eliminate the source out of my life.

We all want to be at and in peace. Peace gives us a sense of assurance knowing that everything will be okay. Peace keeps us in a calm state which is very beneficial for our mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health. In everything you do, do it with peace coming from your heart.

Have a productive day full of peace. Take time to experience the aroma of peace which is usually embracing the stillness/quietness. It’s so therapeutic.

Goddess Kamil with a K