Congratulate Yourself

It is definitely a late night post. I assume many are resting and won’t read the post until the rising. So with that being said, let’s abundant the rising for us all. May we abundant the rising for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good. May we continue to express gratitude for life that is the richest gift given to us each day. May we appreciate the opportunity to smile, laugh, heal, etc on another day. Love and light.

How often do you congratulate yourself? How often do you tell yourself you’re “proud of you” for every accomplishments? Ask yourself when was the last time you actually pat yourself on the back without anyone’s input. These are serious questions to ask yourself. Can you live life without the approval and validation from society? If the answer is no, then it’s because of your ego. Ego feeds on the approval and validation from society. Why? Because of fear. What is it that you fear?

Most of the time to get what we desire is usually on the other side of fear. Keep in mind, fear is an illusion in other words thinking of something that doesn’t exist. The only way it will exist is if we keep thinking about the fear. At some point you have to face it in order to get what you desired. Address your fears so you can truly be yourself without any regrets. Look at fear as a way to help you reach your highest potentials.

I’m going to use this moment to congratulate myself and I want you to do the same for yourself. I congratulate myself for surviving foster care. I’m so proud of myself for walking away from toxic relationships to put myself first. Self care is top tier and non-negotiable. I congratulate myself for digging deep within to actually find myself and my passion. I am honored to be gifted with a talent to teach a life skill (sign language). I’m so proud to keep stepping outside of my comfort zone as I continue to grow and elevate. Most importantly I am beyond proud to step outside of survival mode in order for me to walk into my thriving mode. I no longer address myself as resilient, because I am exhausted from strength alone and I don’t want to attract anymore struggles. Be careful of how you talk and label yourself, because you can attract things even when you don’t mean it.

The more you congratulate yourself, the more you are expressing gratitude. Remember you are the author of your story. Every chapter documents your journey of progression. So with that being said, take time with yourself and congratulate yourself. Be carefree and live life in the present moment. That’s all that matters. Until next time, Love and light.


Freely Friday!

Happy Friday Readers! The week has gone by so quick. Summer is almost here. Looking so forward to enjoying the sun a lot more. I hope you are in agreement. Let’s abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May we continue to express gratitude for life and all that it have to offer. Love and light!

Freely Friday will be about just freeing yourself. For some this week might’ve been heavy or for others it might’ve been good. But let’s take today to just be FREE! Although being FREE should be an everyday thing, but for some there is a need for a reminder. And that reminder is to be our authentic selves.

With so much going on in life, we tend to forget to be in the moment. We forget to be our authentic self, because we’re so caught up with chaotic of life. Life circumstances would cause us to feel withdrawn, reserved, etc. But we failed to realize that life is the greatest teacher. It’s all about navigating through life and understanding yourself during the journey.

As the saying goes, “you’re not living life until people’s opinions of you no longer matters to you.” Be free and feel what life have to offer you. If that’s difficult to do, then think of 5-10 things to be grateful for. You’ll see life had a lot to offer and has given you. Dancing around your apartment with some music playing. Have the windows open letting in the light to increase your energy. Do whatever makes you feel free. Remember it starts from within and it doesn’t require you to have money. Energy is everything and it’s the true wealth. Have a phenomenal weekend! Love and light!


Wonder Wednesday

Great Ra’sing Readers! How’s your Wednesday going so far? Make sure you’re thinking positive thoughts to have a positive day. Let’s abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family! May we continue to express gratitude for life as we given another day to smile, laugh, heal, celebrate, and do the desires of our hearts. Let’s have a moment of silence for the mass shooting in Texas. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

Yesterday I familiarized myself with Tik Tok. It was an interesting experience as I learn how to do certain videos. I enjoyed it very much. That’s how life is, we must take the time to learn what life have to offer us. And it’s up to us if we want to embrace the lesson or not. Try to look for the positive in everything. I know it’s easier said than done, but we must learn how to look at things from a different perspective.

Yesterday was definitely a day of test for me. But I’m proud to say that I passed the test. I was confident in saying “No”. You get to a point in your life where you stop putting yourself last. Those days are over of putting myself on the back burner to suffer alone! I have a life and I plan to live it to the best of my abilities! And you need to do the same! Stop living for people and people pleasing! Please yourself and it’s not selfish at all to put yourself first. You have to make sure you are good before you can help anyone else.

With that being said, I challenge you to ask yourself if you are being your authentic self. Ask yourself if you’re being honest with yourself and making yourself happy. Have a phenomenal day! Love and Light!


You got this!

Great Evening Readers! How is everyone feeling today? I hope y’all are feeling good or at least in a good mood. Let’s abundant our evening for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May we continue to express gratitude for life as we utilize the opportunity to smile, laugh, heal, celebrate and the desires of our heart. So mote it be!!

Today I went walking again at Delaware park. Then afterwards walked for an additional 30 minutes after I was done walking around the park. I was able to clear my mind and express my gratitude for life. I had to ask myself what was I waiting for before I make a major move. I soon realized there wasn’t a need for me to wait on anything, just do it!!!

Have you ever feel on edge as if before you make this one move, it’s something you need to take care of? It’s like okay you need and/or crave for the push/support from family and friends. Well I’m here to tell you that you don’t need to wait on your friends and/or family to support you or give you that push. You’ll be waiting forever if you’re relying on them. Don’t do it!!! Be your own greatest fan! Be your own support! Push yourself to be GREAT! Push yourself to do the unthinkable!!!

You have to learn to have yourself! You have to learn to have your own back! If you keep suppressing yourself, guess what everyone around you will suppress you. And you can’t be mad at them, because you’re doing it to yourself! Being yourself is the greatest gift you can give yourself! Acknowledge your truth and be comfortable with yourself! Yes you’ll hurt some people’s down the way, but that don’t matter. Your mental health is way more important than what people think of you and what they expect you to do and/or be! How dare them!!! And remember everyone don’t deserve access to you.

With all that being said, I encourage each of you to challenge yourself to converse with yourself frequently. Ask yourself questions and please always be kind to yourself. You deserve a lot if you believe you do so. Finally, go ahead and knock that project out! There’s no need to wait anymore! You are responsible for you. And you must create the opportunity for you to excel in life. A loss is never a failure, it’s a lesson. Someone once told me that failure is the mother of success. Because without failure how would we know what we need to do to achieve success. Have a good evening!


Are You Living?

Great Ra’sing Readers! Let’s abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May we continue to be grateful for life which gives us another day to heal, celebrate, smile, laugh, and do the desires of our hearts.

Readers, how was your weekend? I hope it was good and full of positive memories. I’m really trying to write this blog today. I’m actually lost for words not knowing what to to really say. But I’ll let my hands do the talking as I type. My weekend was bittersweet with mixed emotions. My city, Buffalo, NY endured a mass shooting in Tops grocery stores. Not only that, there were two separate shooting incidents followed by the mass shootout on the same day. I’m pretty sure you heard it on the news repeatedly and/or read it in the newspaper or maybe learned from others.

The shooting has caused a lot of fear among civilians in my hometown. We continue to be killed because of the color of our skin. I don’t understand why we can’t get an anti-hate bill. Every other race gets an anti-hate bill without a problem, but when it comes to us, it’s a huge problem! I just don’t understand how this world works and why we’re hated so much. It’s unbelievable! That’s all I have to say about that situation. I don’t want to feed into the energy of fear and intimidation. This is why I don’t watch the NEWS, because they do a great job in causing fear among civilians. I pray for the families of the 10 that are deceased and the three who survived as well as those who were there in the store working and/or shopping. Their lives will never be the same.

The next day after the incident I had to model for the fashion show. It was not what I expected. There were too many last minute changes. However, I learned that in life you’ll have to make last minute changes for something to work out. I was also reminded to stop doing for people that you should be doing for yourself! And also to stop doing for others that can do for themselves! Why put in the work for someone that don’t want to put in the work for themselves? Remember life is what you make it.

After finishing several projects over the weekend for other people, I decided this was it. I have to stand my ground and put myself first. And that’s not selfish at all. I refused to allow people to make me feel guilty for doing so. Besides what’s the purpose of life if you’re not living? When are you going to start living? Don’t say until things start going well for you. You have to create the moment or else you’ll lose the opportunity.

I challenge each of you to ask yourself, “Am I living?” If not what are you waiting for? Take steps to protect yourself and your family. Take steps to putting yourself first, it’s all a part of self care. Stay safe! Love and Light!


Keep Winning!

Great Ra’sing Readers! Abundant your rising for you and your family. May your work and intentions be your prayer for good for yourself and your family. May you express gratitude for your life and all the things you have. Smile, laugh, heal, and do whatever your heart desires to make you happy. Love and light!

How is your day going so far? Is the sun shining brightly where you at? You know the sun makes us feel good no matter if it’s cold or raining outside. For the sun to always reveal itself is welcoming. The sun is shining brightly where I’m at even though it’s cold outside. No complaints here. I love the sun.

Today would have been my mother’s 51st birthday. I miss her beautiful smile and laughter which is music to my ears. I haven’t decided how I would like to celebrate her. Honestly, I’m exhausted from a dream download. Her pictures were in my dream as I received a surprise visit from my late grandfather. He told me he loved me and to never forget it. I then woke up feeling good, but exhausted.

When I have dreams, I write them down in my dream book. Why because it’s always a message in it. I did a blog post on dreams. If you haven’t read it here’s the link, https://growingpains4evolution.blog/2022/03/21/dreams/

I want to share this message that no matter what you encounter in life, you’ll always come out as a winner. Loser is not in my vocabulary, because we all know we may have some losses. But what matters is how you process the loss. I process my losses as lessons, because we learn from it. This is the same mindset I apply when doors are closed and/or when people disown me. Instead of getting upset, I’ve learned to accept that not everyone wants to see you win.

Please do not get discouraged. Shake the rejection off and tell yourself “I got this!!” What’s important is that you keep winning even if you haven’t won a medal. This is a different type of winning. You’re having a winning mindset when you’re all about loving and respecting yourself. You are winning when you are learning to control your emotions and how you react to people/situations! You are a WINNER! Feel it and embrace it no matter your flaws!

And speaking of flaws, that will be the topic tomorrow. I was gone talk about it today, but let’s focus on winning!! When you are winning in having a peaceful and fulfilling life, trust and believe people will become attracted to your aura. So make sure you have your healthy boundaries in place to protect you.

With that being said my readers, I challenge you to take on a winning mindset! Let it have you in awe of yourself. After all you are the co-creator of your life. Love and light!!


Mind Your Surroundings!

Great Afternoon Readers! Let’s abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May our heartfelt gratitude is music to the Universe and/or higher power. So shall it be!

How’s everyone’s day going? I hope it’s going productive with laughs and smiles. Mines is despite my city experiencing snow once again. How are we having snow in April?? Just a few days ago it was summer. LOL! Hey gotta love New York and it’s flaws!! No complaints here, because I look forward to summer. I will not complain about the heat. I refuse especially when we had a very cold winter with way too much snow. No AC, I’m going to sweat it out and brace myself in the heat. LOL 😂 If it’s gets too hot, trust me I’ll turn on the AC. LOL 😂 look at me already giving in and summer not here yet. Haha!

Yesterday was a very interesting day. I attended a funeral to pay my respect on behalf of a friend. I used to always wear black to the funeral, but I decided against it and wore rainbow colors. Orange stood out the most in addition to my red hair. I didn’t want to be the center of attention, but I wanted to reflect my energy. My energy was contagious and electrifying. My aura caught people’s attention from the moment I drove myself to the gas station before attending the funeral. Compliments left and right.

As soon as stepped inside the funeral home, a few people pulled me aside to tell me my energy was welcoming. They said they were tired of seeing black and seeing people sad. But once they saw me it was like they had to say something and reach out to touch my arms. I’m very cautious of my surroundings, because I am empathetic. But I know my limitations and I have my healthy boundaries in place to protect me.

When I left the funeral, I was exhausted. All those energies I felt was as if I’ve absorbed it unintentionally. There’s a saying that you need to pay attention to how you feel after you leave a certain place and from speaking with someone. Be mindful of people, places, and things when it affects you. Because I was so exhausted yesterday, I couldn’t blog instead I had to rest. Having a cup of coffee did me no justice to give me energy. My spirit was like “I don’t think so! You’re resting!”

With all that being said, take time to listen to your body and rest even when you don’t want to. Challenge yourself to get to know yourself well to the point you know to avoid certain people, places, and things that make you feel a certain way. Always remember energy don’t lie. Your body picks up on energy before it signals your brain! Have a phenomenal day!!


Inner Child

Great Ra’sing Readers! May we abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. We express deep heartfelt gratitude for life. It’s another day to be here, to smile, laugh, and do whatever our heart desires. So mote it be!

I hope everyone had a great day yesterday! If you didn’t don’t say you had a bad day. Instead say you had a “character building” day. Those tough days are challenges to help you build your character. You’ll know what to do effectively when you’re faced with the challenge again. Change the narrative of how you look at life. Remember anything you speak of will be willed into the Universe. Be very mindful of the things you say.

A few days ago while driving I was telling myself I need to get a new hearing aid. The one I currently have was working my last nerves going in and out. I said I needed to stop being so cute and concerned with people’s thought of my hearing challenge. It was the only reason why I got the hearing aid three years ago. Now fast forward three years, it’s not the hearing aid for me.

Anyhow I told myself I needed to make an appointment with my audiologist. Good thing when I came home, I had a missed called from them. I returned the call and was reminded I had an appointment the next day which I completely forgot about. I’m like why is this not in my planner. Umm that’s interesting, but I’m glad they reminded me.

So the next day which was yesterday, I was so excited to go to my appointment. I was literally being a big kid at heart. I have a very good and supportive rapport with my audiologist I’ve known for over 10 years. We’re discussing my options such as a cochlear implant, new hearing aid, and a new mold. I wanted a new hearing aid, but she suggested to go with the new mold which will add more power to my hearing aid. So I’m like okay, let’s try this.

She gets this pink and white clay mixture. While she’s mixing it, it brought so many childhood memories of how I loved to play with the mixture. She gave me some in my hands to play with. It was so relaxing. I told her I’m being a big kid right now. She laughed as she put the mixture in my ear to get a definite shape of my canal. The mixture stays there for about 5-10 minutes until it’s a steady hold before being taken out. The mold will be sent to the manufacturer and I come back in two weeks to pick it up. I’m truly excited!

As my audiologist and I were talking, I inquired about speech therapy. She wasn’t sure if it would be covered by my insurance, but wanted to know why I asked. Although I don’t need speech therapy, I told her I missed it from when I used to take it during my childhood. From that moment on I knew this appointment wasn’t about me, it was about my inner child. So I let my inner child lead the way. Speech therapy is covered under my insurance and I have my first session in two weeks. Now I’m extra excited and really being in tune with my inner child.

I share all this to say that you need to trust your inner child. If you find yourself reminiscing about your childhood and acting on it, chances are it’s your inner child leading you. You may find yourself playing with children, toys, coloring, at the park swinging or going down the slide, etc. Take time to nourish and spend time with your inner child. It makes life better. Dance and play those little kid music. I listen to them all the time in my car even when my kids are not in my car. Sometimes we just need to take a break from adulting.

Challenge yourself to spend time with your inner child. Step outside of the norm and embrace yourself my friends! Have a great day!


My Unexpected Ascension

Great Evening Readers! How’s your day thus far? Did you abundant your day? I hope you did. Let’s abundant our evening for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May we be more appreciative of life and what it has to offer us. Amen!

Yesterday I had a very unique experience. I tried to blog about yesterday, but I wasn’t done with my experience. I had a good day, but was running a few errands before heading home. I arrived home and retreated to the kitchen to cook dinner. I’m listening to my music while cooking.

Then I became dizzy. From there I knew my blood pressure was low. From time to time I have my dizzy spells or experiencing extreme fatigue. When I’m feeling like that it’s either because my blood pressure is low or my iron is low. I am anemic and sometimes it goes into remission if I’m eating enough food with iron in it. Anyhow I hurried up to the nearest chair to keep myself from falling to the floor. All I need is to get ahold of some ice or frozen fruit that will have me alert. It works every time. And from there I would take an iron pill with orange juice.

I sat in the chair mustering up enough strength and courage to walk to the freezer to get what I need. I walked then boom! I had fell. I don’t know how long I laid unconsciously, but I heard myself telling myself to get up and be strong. When I finally got myself onto a chair, I automatically started eating frozen fruit so I could become alert. It wasn’t working. Here I was pacing myself in my mind to pull through. I kept telling myself I have to make my children’s plate. The food was done.

I got up once more to finish making my children’s plate of food. Boom! I fell onto the floor once again. I stared at the light and ceiling wondering if this was my ascension. I felt myself urinating while laying on the floor. I yelled to the heavens in my mind begging my ancestors I was not ready to ascend. I wanted more time with my children. There were a lot of word exchanges.

I became alert and got up real quick. I changed out my clothes, cleaned up the mess. Boom! I fell again. I woke up to my daughter tugging at me to wake up. I asked what happened and where was I. She said “Mommy you fell in the bathroom!” I looked around while laying on the floor and told her I was okay, just needed to have enough strength to get up. After encouraging myself to get back up, I finished making the kids plate and went straight to bed.

As I laid and rested, I was reminded that I was distracted. I needed to focus. It was true I was distracted. I was just missing my mother. Her birthday in three weeks and next month will mark 5 yrs since she ascended. I shouldn’t be sad instead I should think about the good times I had with her. I should be focus on continuing making her proud.

My whole experience was a wake up call for me letting me know I have unfinished business to handle. My time was not up at all, there’s too much to do. I wouldn’t want my children to be motherless. I have to do better with my health although I’m detoxing. I have to keep in mind the body needs more nutrients and minerals when it goes through a detoxification. I’m grateful for life to be here to be given another opportunity to share my wisdom and to make a difference in someone’s life.

Sometimes we may be hit with a near death experience to give us a wake up call to get back on track. Paid attention to the signs and remember health is wealth! I challenge you all to think about your near death experience and what you’ve learned from it. Did you make a promise while you were in the moment of that situation? If so reflect on that promise. Are you doing what you promised? If not how come? If so, are you really committed to it? Have a phenomenal evening!

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Love Is My Language

Great Afternoon my Readers! How was your Monday? How’s your midday (Tuesday) going so far? Let’s abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. ASE!

My Monday (yesterday) was very reflective in other words I did some retrospection. I used to question myself how is I’m still speaking healing and life into people who had hurt me. I just couldn’t understand for the life of me how I can still care about someone and wanted to help uplift them to be better. See I don’t hold any hate, because it’s not my language. Love is my language. You know the saying, “to overcome or overshadow hate is with love”. Love overrides all the hurt, pain, and stands the test of time. Love is forgiveness, but it don’t necessarily mean you should bring a person back into your life. It just means you forgive, but never forget how it made you feel. Love is loving yourself to not go back to that hurt and pain. Love was learning the lesson of the journey to arrive where you’re at now and towards where you’ll be going.

Everyday I tell myself; “I am love. I am the loved and the lover. My love endures beginning within me. Love is my inner pendulum. It keeps me centered and balanced. As a love-bearing and centered person, I create happiness and joy in my life!” So obviously I’m getting what I’ve been putting into the Universe. I radiate love and I’m full of love. I can’t deny it from within myself. I can’t stop being love. As I’ve said before love is my language.

With that being said my Readers, I challenge each of you to think about how you want your legacy to be remembered. Think about your strongest qualities/characteristics that defines you. Love defines me and that’s all that matters to me. Because my love is my legacy that have touched many souls whether intentionally and unintentionally. This is why when we abundant our day and say “May our works and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and others”, we really speak abundantly. Have an amazing day!

Abundance, prosperity, good health and happiness!