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Transformation

Great Early Ra’sing! How are each of you? I hope your summer was fun, relaxing, and everything you desired it to be. Let’s abundant the rising for ourselves and our family. May our work be our prayer for good intentions for ourselves and our family. May we continue to express gratitude for life, its another day to laugh, live, and do the things we wanted to do. So mote it be! Ase!

Here we are about to experience autumn 🍂 weather. I look forward to the leaves changing colors hence the post title “transformation”. Autumn brings on spiced cider, apple cinnamon aroma, pumpkin spice, and so much more. 😋 I’m excited. Are you excited? I hope so.

Tell me what do you think of transformation. Transformation can mean many things. It is more related to change for the better. You leave behind the old to embrace the new. The four seasons (spring, summer, autumn, winter) is a perfect example of transformation. Sometimes we don’t realize we went through a transformation whereas we do recognize it.

I come to share with you that transformation is normal and apart of life. Think of the journey of the caterpillar to a butterfly. Beautiful transformation right? We as humans are always transforming. And we have our reasons for doing so. Don’t feel guilty for changing for the better especially when people tried to belittle you. Remember what they do and say to you has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them and whatever they’re struggling with. So don’t take things personally nor make any assumptions.

During my transformation over the summer, I noticed I don’t have any tolerance for people who trauma bond. Why? Because I’m not in that same mental space anymore. In other words I no longer have conversations about what’s going wrong in my life nor I talk about the past. When you complain about life and/or talking about the past, you are replaying the events over for it to happen again in your life. The only time you should bring up the past is to share what it has taught you.

I don’t allow anyone to tell me I’m resilient because of the struggles I went through in life. Suffering/struggling are not normal yet the society as a whole accepted it as normal. That’s a topic for another day. Anyhow you really see things for what it is. This blog platform needs a new name. Why, because I’m no longer in that mental space to address growing pains. Right now I’m just thriving in my element which is teaching sign language to the community. It’s what I love to do and it’s my passion.

With all that being said ask yourself do you need to undergo a surgery of transformation. Do you need to let go of the fear and embrace your true self? It is true when you go through the transformation you will no longer tolerate things and conversations you once did. You’ll look at things from a different angle in other words see things for what it is. Be overall be proud of yourself for taking the initiative to better YOU! Until next time readers continue to be YOU and never settle yourself for anyone. And don’t let anyone pressure you or make you feel guilty for doing what’s best for you. Have a phenomenal day! Love and light ✨️ Goddess Kamil with a K

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Toxic Relationships

Great Ra’sing! How’s everyone doing? It’s Friday and I’m sure many of you are looking forward to the weekend to rest. Let’s abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May we continue to express gratitude for life and all the things it have to offer. Love and light! Now list five to ten things you are grateful for.

Let’s talk about toxic relationships. Most people associate toxic relationships with people they interact with. But have you thought about the relationship with yourself? Interesting question right? Everyone should have a relationship with themselves.

Can we all agree that in order for life to be meaningful, we must let go of toxic relationships we have with people? We all have some family members, friends, associates who are toxic. But it doesn’t necessarily mean we have to tolerate the dysfunction. You have to do what’s best for you and your mental health.

Now let’s address the toxic relationships we have with ourselves. This may be an uncomfortable topic for some, but hey you have to face the truth one way or the other. The truth is not always easy to digest, but it does set you free. Toxic relationships with yourself looks like this; calling yourself names (bullying), self doubt, self sabotaging behaviors, insecurities, drugging, abusing alcohol, binge eating, etc.

Whatever your toxic relationship is, address it then ask yourself what was the reason behind the relationship. Then work on a solution to that reason. Maybe the solution is therapy to help you set good habits with yourself. For example I used to binge eating years back. Sometimes I would eat just to be eating and I’m not even hungry. When it came time to address it, I realized it was my coping mechanism to deal with stress. I also realized I was in a trauma mindset, because I was starved as a young girl in foster care. It took me some time to change my relationship for the better with food.

I leave this message with you to release toxic relationships within yourself. How you perceive yourself is how people will perceive you. Always remember to take care of yourself first before anyone, because you need YOU! No one is going to have your back like you have for yourself! Have a great weekend! Love and light!

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Know Your Truth

It’s the weekend!!!!! Do you look forward to the weekend spending time with family, friends, and pets? Or do you prefer to have alone time with yourself enjoying the peaceful solitude of your home? Whichever you choose, just make sure you make the day count.

Alright let’s get down to abundanting our day for ourselves and our family before diving into this post. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May our gratitude be felt and heard by the universe to be blessed with more abundance. We are grateful for life in which it gives us another day to smile, laugh, heal, and be happy. ASE!

So tell me what do you think the post, “Know Your Truth” is about? Do you think it’s about yourself, your life, etc.? Well let me tell you, it can be a combination of things. But what matters is you being honest with yourself. That’s knowing your truth in addition to living your truth.

It’s not easy acknowledging our truth. It’s quite a challenge, but good for us, because it helps us to grow. Take a look at every aspect of your life and reflect. Be honest with yourself especially when it comes to a particular thing that you don’t want to deal with. Ask yourself how come you don’t want to deal with that thing. What effect does it have on you? Acknowledge it and try to come to terms with it if you can’t get answers.

I always encouraged my clients to get answers when trying to get to the root of the problem. Often I already know the answers, but I don’t share with them until they have the answers. Why? Because if I share with them of the answers without them putting in the work, it will stagnate their growth. How? When they are done working with me, how would they be able to search for answers on their own when they are used to answers given to them? I don’t want them to encounter that roadblock.

When searching for answers it will cause us to look deep within ourselves. At times we may have to reach out to family/friends who may have a clue to the answers we’re looking for. For example I couldn’t understand why my biological mother nor family didn’t get me out of foster care. I’ve been in foster care for 14 years. I needed answers. So I asked several family members and my mother and they shared with me of their struggles. It made me understand and very appreciative of not being in their care. I would have suffered more trauma and they didn’t want that for me. Everything happens for a reason whether we want to accept it or not. But we must come to terms with it.

I acknowledged every aspect of my life. I came to terms with it. If it was something I could change, then I put in the work. If it’s not something I can change, then I change my attitude towards it such as my hearing challenge. It doesn’t make me any less of a person. From there I told myself, “I’m living my truth.” I don’t want any stagnation, because I’ll miss out on opportunities. This goes for all of you!

So with that being said my lovely readers, I challenge you to know and accept your truth. Ask yourself what do you want out of life and take steps to achieve it. Before anything, love yourself!! Have an amazing weekend!