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Transformation

Great Early Ra’sing! How are each of you? I hope your summer was fun, relaxing, and everything you desired it to be. Let’s abundant the rising for ourselves and our family. May our work be our prayer for good intentions for ourselves and our family. May we continue to express gratitude for life, its another day to laugh, live, and do the things we wanted to do. So mote it be! Ase!

Here we are about to experience autumn 🍂 weather. I look forward to the leaves changing colors hence the post title “transformation”. Autumn brings on spiced cider, apple cinnamon aroma, pumpkin spice, and so much more. 😋 I’m excited. Are you excited? I hope so.

Tell me what do you think of transformation. Transformation can mean many things. It is more related to change for the better. You leave behind the old to embrace the new. The four seasons (spring, summer, autumn, winter) is a perfect example of transformation. Sometimes we don’t realize we went through a transformation whereas we do recognize it.

I come to share with you that transformation is normal and apart of life. Think of the journey of the caterpillar to a butterfly. Beautiful transformation right? We as humans are always transforming. And we have our reasons for doing so. Don’t feel guilty for changing for the better especially when people tried to belittle you. Remember what they do and say to you has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them and whatever they’re struggling with. So don’t take things personally nor make any assumptions.

During my transformation over the summer, I noticed I don’t have any tolerance for people who trauma bond. Why? Because I’m not in that same mental space anymore. In other words I no longer have conversations about what’s going wrong in my life nor I talk about the past. When you complain about life and/or talking about the past, you are replaying the events over for it to happen again in your life. The only time you should bring up the past is to share what it has taught you.

I don’t allow anyone to tell me I’m resilient because of the struggles I went through in life. Suffering/struggling are not normal yet the society as a whole accepted it as normal. That’s a topic for another day. Anyhow you really see things for what it is. This blog platform needs a new name. Why, because I’m no longer in that mental space to address growing pains. Right now I’m just thriving in my element which is teaching sign language to the community. It’s what I love to do and it’s my passion.

With all that being said ask yourself do you need to undergo a surgery of transformation. Do you need to let go of the fear and embrace your true self? It is true when you go through the transformation you will no longer tolerate things and conversations you once did. You’ll look at things from a different angle in other words see things for what it is. Be overall be proud of yourself for taking the initiative to better YOU! Until next time readers continue to be YOU and never settle yourself for anyone. And don’t let anyone pressure you or make you feel guilty for doing what’s best for you. Have a phenomenal day! Love and light ✨️ Goddess Kamil with a K

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Congratulate Yourself

It is definitely a late night post. I assume many are resting and won’t read the post until the rising. So with that being said, let’s abundant the rising for us all. May we abundant the rising for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good. May we continue to express gratitude for life that is the richest gift given to us each day. May we appreciate the opportunity to smile, laugh, heal, etc on another day. Love and light.

How often do you congratulate yourself? How often do you tell yourself you’re “proud of you” for every accomplishments? Ask yourself when was the last time you actually pat yourself on the back without anyone’s input. These are serious questions to ask yourself. Can you live life without the approval and validation from society? If the answer is no, then it’s because of your ego. Ego feeds on the approval and validation from society. Why? Because of fear. What is it that you fear?

Most of the time to get what we desire is usually on the other side of fear. Keep in mind, fear is an illusion in other words thinking of something that doesn’t exist. The only way it will exist is if we keep thinking about the fear. At some point you have to face it in order to get what you desired. Address your fears so you can truly be yourself without any regrets. Look at fear as a way to help you reach your highest potentials.

I’m going to use this moment to congratulate myself and I want you to do the same for yourself. I congratulate myself for surviving foster care. I’m so proud of myself for walking away from toxic relationships to put myself first. Self care is top tier and non-negotiable. I congratulate myself for digging deep within to actually find myself and my passion. I am honored to be gifted with a talent to teach a life skill (sign language). I’m so proud to keep stepping outside of my comfort zone as I continue to grow and elevate. Most importantly I am beyond proud to step outside of survival mode in order for me to walk into my thriving mode. I no longer address myself as resilient, because I am exhausted from strength alone and I don’t want to attract anymore struggles. Be careful of how you talk and label yourself, because you can attract things even when you don’t mean it.

The more you congratulate yourself, the more you are expressing gratitude. Remember you are the author of your story. Every chapter documents your journey of progression. So with that being said, take time with yourself and congratulate yourself. Be carefree and live life in the present moment. That’s all that matters. Until next time, Love and light.

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Finally Free!

Happy Sunday Readers!! I figured I check in before the summer is over. Vacation with my children is almost coming to an end. I’ll be back to blogging full time. Trust me, I do miss blogging and interacting with my readers.

So tell me my readers, how is your summer going? Was you able to take a vacation as well? Are you enjoying the heat and the rain that brings the breeze? I hope your summer is fulfilling. Be sure to make each day count. Always be grateful for the present which is a gift to us to be thankful for life.

I’ve been teaching sign language at a local library for over a month. Tomorrow will be the final class which is game day. I’m truly excited about game day. I’m beyond proud of myself for teaching sign language. It’s a very important skill to have. It is honestly a life skill and I’m honored to teach it to a community that wants to learn.

For so many years I’ve been looking for my passion. I had so many ideas I wanted to fulfilled, but they weren’t my passion. What was the point of fulfilling something that isn’t your passion? I’ve fulfilled so much, but they didn’t fulfill me like I wanted it to. It didn’t motivate me to continue with the project after it was already completed. Don’t get me wrong it was rewarding and I loved seeing the change/difference it created in someone’s life for the better. But something was missing.

I knew I was supposed to go back to being a motivational speaker, but something was missing. I couldn’t figure it out for the life of me. Then just one day, my hearing was working my nerves. I was experiencing an inflammation in my right ear. The doctor couldn’t figure out what it was. It was nerving. I was tired of taking steroids to slow down the inflammation. I didn’t want to accept the fact I would be losing more of my hearing.

Oh no, I was in straight denial. I was clinging onto wanting to hear my old music, and many sounds that were like a lullaby to my ears. I didn’t bother to take the time out to ask what was my current situation trying to teach me. I was being stubborn and I didn’t want to be bothered with the hearing community because they wouldn’t understand.

After all the crying, I had to force myself to dig deep within. I had to ask myself what was my progressive hearing loss was trying to teach me. I learned it was because of my stubbornness due to so many rejections I’ve faced in this life. And it’s what caused me to be isolated. It made me understood why the deaf community choose to isolate themselves from the hearing community. Yes, they’re stubborn, because they don’t want to face anymore rejections. They’ve had enough. People don’t want to see us for us!

After much thought, I decided to teach sign language to the hearing community. I’m dedicated to bringing awareness about hearing loss and how to better communicate. I had to travel back to my root in which I knew sign language since I was 3 years old. As I sat with my memories as they make their way back to me subconsciously, my family didn’t sign with me. They didn’t take the time to learn sign language. And because of that, I share with my students about the importance of teaching their children sign language. Fostering communication at an early age have many benefits. It increases a child’s vocabularies which increases their reading level. Babies can communicate as early as five months old through sign language. Why wait until your child is 11 months old or older to say their first word. Be proactive in their communication skills. It’ll pay off in the long run.

I’ve now found my passion which is teaching sign language and speaking in sign language. Sometimes you have to go back to your root to find your passion. And sometimes a life and/or health situation have to transpire to get your attention. Now all those ideas I had, I can now incorporate it with sign language. I have sign language game night coming up at the WestSide Tilth Farm. Sign language yoga is in the works. Best part is I’ve been including the hearing community. It’s all about being inclusive which is acceptance all across the board. I’m glad people are reaching out to me to learn this important life skill.

So with that being said, if you’re in a rough spot, ask yourself what is the situation trying to teach you. Humble yourself and take some quiet time for yourself to allow the message to come to you. It may not come right away, but it will when you are ready to receive. Love and light. I’ll be writing again sooner than you know.

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Toxic Relationships

Great Ra’sing! How’s everyone doing? It’s Friday and I’m sure many of you are looking forward to the weekend to rest. Let’s abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May we continue to express gratitude for life and all the things it have to offer. Love and light! Now list five to ten things you are grateful for.

Let’s talk about toxic relationships. Most people associate toxic relationships with people they interact with. But have you thought about the relationship with yourself? Interesting question right? Everyone should have a relationship with themselves.

Can we all agree that in order for life to be meaningful, we must let go of toxic relationships we have with people? We all have some family members, friends, associates who are toxic. But it doesn’t necessarily mean we have to tolerate the dysfunction. You have to do what’s best for you and your mental health.

Now let’s address the toxic relationships we have with ourselves. This may be an uncomfortable topic for some, but hey you have to face the truth one way or the other. The truth is not always easy to digest, but it does set you free. Toxic relationships with yourself looks like this; calling yourself names (bullying), self doubt, self sabotaging behaviors, insecurities, drugging, abusing alcohol, binge eating, etc.

Whatever your toxic relationship is, address it then ask yourself what was the reason behind the relationship. Then work on a solution to that reason. Maybe the solution is therapy to help you set good habits with yourself. For example I used to binge eating years back. Sometimes I would eat just to be eating and I’m not even hungry. When it came time to address it, I realized it was my coping mechanism to deal with stress. I also realized I was in a trauma mindset, because I was starved as a young girl in foster care. It took me some time to change my relationship for the better with food.

I leave this message with you to release toxic relationships within yourself. How you perceive yourself is how people will perceive you. Always remember to take care of yourself first before anyone, because you need YOU! No one is going to have your back like you have for yourself! Have a great weekend! Love and light!

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Rain Rain go away, but I think I want you to stay!

Great Afternoon Readers! I’m here today to do another blog post while it’s raining outside. Let’s abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May we continue to be grateful for life and the things it have to offer. So mote it be!

How’s the weather I’m your town? Are you getting some sunshine or is it snowing? It’s raining in my town and I usually feel sluggish. It’s odd how the weather can affect our moods. Our bodies just be going with the flow of Mother Earth. Sometimes it’s a good thing whereas it’s not a good thing.

Although I’m a fire sign, water is my favorite element. It keeps me calm and at peace. Sometimes it’s my reminder to take a step back and just breathe knowing everything will be okay. Whenever I feel myself getting angry and/or frustrated I have to get access to water quickly. Water will extinguish the flame within me quickly to prevent myself from exploding like a rocket.

In society people would mimic rain as a form of depression. It’s like Mother Earth is crying and I should cry too. What if Mother Earth is not crying tears of sadness, instead she’s crying tears of joy to bring forth more life. Rain (water) brings life to fruition. Several examples of life needing water; humans, plants, animals, etc. Water is a living element and many did not know that.

So with that saying about water being a living element that brings life, enjoy the rain. Go outside and get wet. Let the rain penetrate your skin as it soothes you. Twirl in circles, smile, laugh with your hands in the air thanking Mother Earth for rain. There may be some days in which you’ll have to be the water/rain sharing your wisdom with others in their journey. Love and light!

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Be The Light!

Great Ra’sing Readers! May we abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May we continue to express gratitude for life. Love and light!

How was your weekend readers? I hope it was good. My weekend was very busy. I rearranged my whole apartment, had a porch sale, etc. It felt so good to do something constructive. Anytime you feel stagnant or constricted, try to do something constructive that will keep you occupied and moving.

Today’s topic is about being the light. With so much going on in the world, we need light. Being the light wherever is smiling, sharing your good energy, positive spirit and all. It makes the world a better place. Spreading light is contagious and I love it. I want to be able to leave a legacy behind of I always being and sharing the light.

With that being said, be the light. Let your light radiate to everyone you come in touch with. You’ll see how you can make a small difference in someone’s life. Remember people will never forget how you made them feel. Love and light my readers!

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Happy June 1st!

Great Ra’sing Readers! How was everyone’s weekend and holiday? I hope it was relaxing and enjoyable. Mines was very long amid the traveling. I was exhausted. Today I’m energized and ready to get back in my routine.

Let’s abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May we continue to express gratitude for life. It’s another day to smile, laugh, heal, celebrate and do the things within the desires of our hearts. So mote it be!!! Love and light!!

Today is the first of the month. It’s a new month to complete the things we haven’t been able to complete in May. Making sure you’re going into this month with a positive mindset. It sets the tone for the whole month. If you haven’t already there is still time to abundant your home. Here’s the link in which I talked about how to abundant your home. https://growingpains4evolution.blog/2022/03/31/the-first-of-the-month/

Summer is almost approaching in June. It’s prom season as well as graduation season. Both of my daughters are graduating this month. My oldest son is turning 20 years young this month. My youngest son will be home this month. Like wow where has the time gone. I’m truly grateful for all my blessings. Being a mother of four children is hard work, yet rewarding. I look forward to us relaxing and traveling. Family time is so important.

Use this day to reflect on your blessings. It’s much to be thankful for. Always follow your heart and stand up for what is right. Be your own individual person, it’s what makes you so unique. It’s a good thing to step outside of the norm, but I’ll save that topic for another day. Enjoy your day! Love and light! 💜🤗

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Wonder Wednesday

Great Ra’sing Readers! How’s your Wednesday going so far? Make sure you’re thinking positive thoughts to have a positive day. Let’s abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family! May we continue to express gratitude for life as we given another day to smile, laugh, heal, celebrate, and do the desires of our hearts. Let’s have a moment of silence for the mass shooting in Texas. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

Yesterday I familiarized myself with Tik Tok. It was an interesting experience as I learn how to do certain videos. I enjoyed it very much. That’s how life is, we must take the time to learn what life have to offer us. And it’s up to us if we want to embrace the lesson or not. Try to look for the positive in everything. I know it’s easier said than done, but we must learn how to look at things from a different perspective.

Yesterday was definitely a day of test for me. But I’m proud to say that I passed the test. I was confident in saying “No”. You get to a point in your life where you stop putting yourself last. Those days are over of putting myself on the back burner to suffer alone! I have a life and I plan to live it to the best of my abilities! And you need to do the same! Stop living for people and people pleasing! Please yourself and it’s not selfish at all to put yourself first. You have to make sure you are good before you can help anyone else.

With that being said, I challenge you to ask yourself if you are being your authentic self. Ask yourself if you’re being honest with yourself and making yourself happy. Have a phenomenal day! Love and Light!

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Monday Mood

Great Ra’sing Readers! How was everyone’s weekend? Hopefully it was a productive one. Let’s abundant our day for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May we continue to express gratitude for our life as we celebrate, smile, laugh, and whatever our heart desires. So mote it be.

Today is the day I will be advocating for my son to return home from boarding school. He doesn’t want to stay there until August which I totally understand. I’ll be asking for him to return home in June when school is out so he can enjoy his summer. I’m not too fond of court, because I’ve dealt with court while I was in foster care permanency review, divorce court, mental health court for clients, etc. I’m tired of court. I just want to be done with it.

I hope this will be a lesson for my son that it’s not a good feeling at all to have someone preside over his life. I also hope that he will learn to maintain his self control. It’s a necessity especially with so much going on in this world.

Life doesn’t come with a parenting manual. Everyone have their own parenting style and some may need to switch up. Why? So their child can be responsive to their authority. Every child is different. He just happened to be one of my challenging child who is very open minded and curious about a lot of things. It’s a good thing, but boundaries must be in place to keep him safe. I still want him to enjoy his teen years, but I care more for his safety. Why? Because he’s a growing young black male.

This may be an uncomfortable topic for many in which blacks are still being killed for the color of their skin. I don’t understand why we are hated so much. But I refused to live in fear. I don’t even want my children to live in fear either.

Racism is so loud and ugly. I challenge each of you to think about what can you do to make the world a better and safe place. Remember we all have children and they deserve to have a good childhood. Also remember hate is a learned behavior. Take a look at how you conduct yourself around your children and others. Love and light!

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You got this!

Great Evening Readers! How is everyone feeling today? I hope y’all are feeling good or at least in a good mood. Let’s abundant our evening for ourselves and our family. May our work and intentions be our prayer for good for ourselves and our family. May we continue to express gratitude for life as we utilize the opportunity to smile, laugh, heal, celebrate and the desires of our heart. So mote it be!!

Today I went walking again at Delaware park. Then afterwards walked for an additional 30 minutes after I was done walking around the park. I was able to clear my mind and express my gratitude for life. I had to ask myself what was I waiting for before I make a major move. I soon realized there wasn’t a need for me to wait on anything, just do it!!!

Have you ever feel on edge as if before you make this one move, it’s something you need to take care of? It’s like okay you need and/or crave for the push/support from family and friends. Well I’m here to tell you that you don’t need to wait on your friends and/or family to support you or give you that push. You’ll be waiting forever if you’re relying on them. Don’t do it!!! Be your own greatest fan! Be your own support! Push yourself to be GREAT! Push yourself to do the unthinkable!!!

You have to learn to have yourself! You have to learn to have your own back! If you keep suppressing yourself, guess what everyone around you will suppress you. And you can’t be mad at them, because you’re doing it to yourself! Being yourself is the greatest gift you can give yourself! Acknowledge your truth and be comfortable with yourself! Yes you’ll hurt some people’s down the way, but that don’t matter. Your mental health is way more important than what people think of you and what they expect you to do and/or be! How dare them!!! And remember everyone don’t deserve access to you.

With all that being said, I encourage each of you to challenge yourself to converse with yourself frequently. Ask yourself questions and please always be kind to yourself. You deserve a lot if you believe you do so. Finally, go ahead and knock that project out! There’s no need to wait anymore! You are responsible for you. And you must create the opportunity for you to excel in life. A loss is never a failure, it’s a lesson. Someone once told me that failure is the mother of success. Because without failure how would we know what we need to do to achieve success. Have a good evening!